Is showing up everyday enough?
This is a long article, lots of thought has gone behind it, years of observation and time to write it, if you are after some 2 second solution to your goals and dreams, this may not be for you, if you want to think deeply about your goals and failure or successes then this may be for you, continue at your own risk.
“t means having a serious conversation with yourself, like a proper adult conversation the kind you see in movies where the main actor stares at himself in the mirror while he’s shaving him self with white cream. There is a blade in this conversation, you don’t have your shirt on, the light is dim and all of sudden you see your future self in the mirror or your past self (whatever motivates you or scares you more).”
As a coach I see this everyday, people who show up and people who don’t.
As i walk into the gym floor in the morning, night time and evenings, i am often met by the same faces. Some become so regular they blend into the background with the dumb bells and kettle bells that sit on the right hand side of my gym.
If I was to ask some of these faces what has made them successful in their path to improved levels of fitness, it is my belief that they could all come up with elaborate stories about how “something” motivated them and then they found something they “loved” to do. Basically the general story that most people with a mild level of success of achieving any goal will tell you.
What some of these characters who keep showing up won’t tell you is that really maybe part of their success is simpler than they might imagine.
Part of their success is the fact they kept showing up.
This is my argument.
Life is very much like the start of any fun run or marathon race you might enter. You start the race shoulder to shoulder with everybody else. Image it now, you 1 thousand other strangers all semi sweaty with nerves and body odour getting pumped on your favourite Spotify playlist getting ready to race. Sorry i got side tracked…..for the most part we all get that same start. (Yes some people get a head start some are elite runners and start way in front at an earlier heat)
The start can be Daunting….
There are so many people around us, so many sometimes that we probably think to ourselves there is no way i could finish anywhere in the top of this race.
But here is the thing.
People Drop Off
It’s True Just like Flies
It’s unfortunate but not always a bad thing, maybe some people don’t really know what they want until they start pursuing it
Maybe some don’t really want it but join “something” because someone else did it.
Whatever the reason
The fact is
Most people quit and as they do like in most races
What is a crowded start
Turns into an empty finish line.
Here is the thing
80 Percent of success is showing up because most people won’t.
Showing up doesn’t have to be complicated but it means a few things.
It means having a serious conversation with yourself, like a proper adult conversation the kind you see in movies where the main actor stares at himself in the mirror while he’s shaving him self with white cream. There is a blade in this conversation, you don’t have your shirt on, the light is dim and all of sudden you see your future self in the mirror or your past self (whatever motivates you or scares you more).
In this conversation you need to make a promise
Not to god, buddha, allah or your mom but to you
A promise not to let yourself down.
Because in life there is one thing you can control and that is not letting yourself down.
A lot of things and people will let you down, even mother nature (God damn gravity).
But you…..well you don’t have to.
So before you think about quitting again
Think about why you started
Think about what time you’ve put in so far
Think about the fact that all you need to keep doing is showing up keep showing up for long enough that everyone around you doesn’t and then maybe then you will know you are probably on your road to success (whatever that is, a six pack, winning a competition or becoming rich).
You don’t have to
Food for Thought
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